Do you buy your kids two gifts for Christmas? If not, start doing it!

Psalm 40:8


                        Last day I got to watch a film called ' Merry Christmas, Baby'. Such a beautiful and meaningful movie! A movie that made me think a lot. A movie that put tears of happiness in my eyes. This movie revolves around the importance of family and the responsibilities of parents. In the movie, a kid is celebrating her first birthday and Christmas. While her mom is desperately trying to throw a big party, buying lots and lots of gifts for her kid, the father who is a humble man, thinks that there is no need of spending so much when the kid is not going to understand or remember anything. He also remembers how his mom bought him two gifts for Christmas. One he would keep and one he would give away to somebody poor. This taught him about selflessness and caring, and now he wishes to teach his daughter the same.  Thus goes the movie. 
             A loving family is the greatest blessing that you can ever have in your life. How rich you are doesn't determine how successful or happy you are. Neither how well you performed in your job. They are just reasons for temporary happiness. But how good of a man you are determines how successful you are and how big and strong your family is determines how rich you are. Don't you agree with me? No matter how harsh your life has been to you, at the end of the day getting surrounded by your loved ones melts away your worries and you feel at peace. Something that money cannot buy you. A loving family is the heaven on earth that can give you immense joy. No matter the class, colour or creed, a united family is always a gem in the society. 
               
Is it easy to build a happy family? What do you think friends?

            Unless you put some effort you cannot achieve anything. Building a happy family is no exception. It does demand a little effort. It is about selflessness and caring. It is about forgiveness and sharing. It is about patience and love. So, to have a great family, each member should play their part well. But parents hold the major role.  How you raise your children, has a big impact. When you grow them into good men and women, you lay the foundation..no..you actually complete the structure of a family in which you and your coming generations can happily dwell.         
  
         Home is the first school. Here is  where the character is formed. So it is very important to be very careful as parents when you raise your children; how you behave and how you treat them. Your children shouldn't be looking else where for role models.
          
           Below I share with you three important qualities that you should develop in your child and a few tips on how you can do it, so that he grows up to be a good man who is capable of building a strong and a happy family.
  
1.  Respect 
            
           When my brother and I were kids, our father used to tell us that we must respect each other.  He would ask my brother to say ''thank you'' when I passed him the brick from his Lego set and would ask me to say ''sorry'' when I accidentally changed the cartoon channel when my brother was watching.

            Saying "please", "thank you" and "sorry" is the best way to show your respect for somebody. It reminds you not to take anything or anyone for granted. Teach it to your children and help them practice it. 

Pope Francis said:
"We must be uncompromising in teaching gratitude and recognition...If we cannot apologize, it means that we are unable to forgive..."Please", "sorry" and "thank you" are words that open up the road to a good family life."
           Start saying those three Golden words often in your family. Let your children hear them and use them. "Please", "Thank you" & "Sorry". 


2.  Care and compassion


         The best way to teach a kid to be caring and compassionate is by being caring and compassionate. Your kids are watching you always. So, the more act of kindness you do, the better it is imprinted in your child's brain. Kids pick up most of their habits from you. Make kindness your habit and tell your kids how good you feel when you are kind to somebody.

         There are many ways to show compassion; with your words, with your actions and with your attitude. There is no better example than taking care of your ageing parents. Spend some time with them and take good care of their health. Understand their emotional weaknesses and  be patient with them rather than complaining about what they did or said. Your kids watch you and will treat you the same way.

          You can help your kids practice the act of kindness. You can let them help you to set the table for dinner and don't forget to thank them for the help. You can also let them to donate their outgrown clothes or help them to make a thank you card for their teacher. You should also encourage them to acknowledge and compliment others.

         Smile please :) A simple yet powerful way to show your kindness is to smile. It gives a positive energy not just to the person whom you smiled at but also to you. Smiling makes you happier and helps you live longer. Be kind to the world. Kids are watching you. Keep smiling!


3. Selflessness and sharing
            
          Selflessness and sharing are two qualities that a big family can teach. The more children you have the more they learn to compromise. They learn to share.They learn how to cooperate. They turn out to be givers rather than takers. Having more than one sibling increases a child's ability to accept responsibilities. All these qualities help your child to build a happy family. So what are you waiting for?? Go have more children!

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